Hmmm I don’t even know where to begin with this. I guess I’ll start with the title. It should have been renamed 50 Shades of Shit.
First of all they did not respect each others limits. Trust & respect is very important in BDSM and they had neither. Anastasia did not respect Christians no touching limit and christian did not trust her (since he showed up all angry when she was visiting her mom).
The end is what upsets me most. Here at the end (of the first book/movie) she asks him to hit her as hard as possible. She consents to the pushing of her limits and yet when he does she runs crying and acts like a battered women.
This is where she ADMITS to NOT wanting a D/S relationship. She asks him to change what hes into or she will leave. That’s not fair to him and his needs at all. She went into it knowing he was a dom and she agreed to try it out because of her immature school girl crush on him. That is not a good basis for a relationship.
Its unfortunate that they did not have the same kinks and in the real world they would admit that, act like adults, and part ways. But I hear that in the other books she successfully changes him. Because kink is bad and all and only practiced by people with mental issues haha. That’s bullshit. The media usually portrays it this way. Though if they admitted it was more real and sane than that I suppose that would make for a less interesting plot?
This whole thing boils down to a very unstable and toxic relationship story that really has little to do with BDSM. Its a shame that people think that is how we do things.