Hey guys 😉
Im bored so… Ask me ANYTHING….
openhubby: Has your sir ever made you do anything you truly didn’t want to?
A: There are days that I don’t feel like cleaning the bathroom or making the bed but I try my best to do it anyway. Exceptions are days when I’m sick. He understands if I need to take a break from those things during times like that. Though he is not super demanding
and we do not have a punishment dynamic (as of August 2015 we now do). We discuss new kinks before we try them and I voice any concern about it during that time. If I truly don’t want to do something during a play session he understands and its added to my hard limits.
openhubby: Has he ever convinced you to do something you originally thought was beyond your limits?
Yes! I think if you are not 100% sure about something take baby steps. I was sure being vacuum packed freaked me out too much but we took small steps into it. Read more about that here.
Punishment is never supposed to be fun. Punishment would mean I screwed up. A punishment for me would be him ignoring me or worse him tying me up and teasing me but not doing anything =(
Now what I think you meant was play. Probably specifically impact play. I do enjoy impact play. My favorite would be caning but we also have a flogger, belt, and paddle. Im a bit of a masochist =)
In layers of a spandex hood plus a zentai suit each touch is 100 times more sensitive and vision is severely distorted. Looking like a faceless fuck doll. As he touches my most ticklish areas my arms are bound invisibly. I dare not move. Caressing my legs, arms, clit. Choking me a little in between. Then a sharp pinch at my nipples. More soothing touching and a slap at my breasts. A bag is placed over my head restricting air flow as he rubs my clit. Then a rush of fresh air enters before its sealed again. This continues until I have cum all over and melt into the bed so high and gooey. My nipples still sore and it feels so good.
I made the mistake of trying to get my ex to be my dom. He only did it to make me happy so it did not work out. You can not make someone that is not kinky be your dom. Their kink may not be your kink. There is also the possibility that they may discover they are a sub themselves. Now im with someone who is into the lifestyle. We found each other by luck really. We met in a vanilla way, went on a vanilla date, and later discovered that we were both into BDSM. Then we negotiated a d/s relationship. It takes time to find the right person vanilla or kinky. Just get out and meet people and see where it goes.
Though you maybe successful and lucky that your partner may be just the right kind of kinky for you! Start with some light spanking and/or hair pulling and see where it goes from there. Bring up BDSM and discuss it with your partner. Discuss limits and things both of you are not interested in. The dominant partner should just go for it within the limits of the sub. Yes you have a hard decision to make if they turn out to not be into what you want them to be into but its so worth it if they are.
If they are not into it please DON’T CHEAT. It only hurts people. Either break up or discuss a open relationship.
Start with a kink checklist or worksheet such as this.